If you are like me, you admit openly that motherhood is hard!
What made it even harder for me was becoming a mom myself without having the support and guidance of my mom. My mom passed away 5 months before I found out that I was pregnant with my daughter Sophia who is now 7.
Navigating through pregnancy, labor & birth as well as postpartum was extremely difficult for me not being able to turn to my mom for help and advice. My emotions throughout my pregnancy made me feel like I was on a constant roller coaster and it did not get any easier once my daughter was born.
Joy was masked by grief.
Grief was overshadowed by happiness.
And behind it all was the guilt...
How can I be happy when I just lost my mom. How can I be sad when I am pregnant? No matter what emotion(s) I was working through the guilt was always there...like a wave pulling me back under.
During my 4th trimester these feelings and emotions did not get any better. What followed was just more grief and guilt...now I had a new beautiful baby and it was not what I had always dreamed, pictured or imagined.
There were no surprise visits from my mom to come hold the baby while I showered or had a nap. There were no phone calls in the middle of the night to my mom asking for advice on something I knew nothing about.
In fact there was no one for me to turn to for support or advice. I lived in a town where I had no family and none of my friends had babies or children. I hadn't been told about any community resources and my family Doctor didn't seem worried.
Even today, when I look around I have not found any support locally for moms to be, new moms or daughters without mothers.
This lack of support has bothered me for so long, it has sat with me for years. I have felt that I am meant to help in this area, this is something that I can offer that others cannot. This is not something experienced by the majority of new moms so it isn't main stream.
I have teamed up with Bereaved Families of Southwestern Ontario to offer a free peer support group for moms to be, new moms and daughters without mothers who would like to seek support and/or support others. A safe place where stories, experiences and advice can be shared in a respectful and honest place.
I call this group...
A peer support group supporting Mothers without Mothers. This can look like mothers to be, new moms and all moms without the support of their own mother.
If you would like to attend a meeting please reach out to me for further details.